For whatever reason the talk with him was not on the schoolwork or his attitude. Not because i didn't think he was completely excusable or justifed but because the session did something to me and i was going to share with him how human his mum is and perharps be able to teach some valuable lessons about anger and also learn from him. So after all the preamblling, i asked him and his little brother what their opinions were about being angry and whether they thought it was okay for anyone to get angry and the responses were a wake up call even for me....'the almighty mummy'!
'We can't help getting mad sometimes because people make us by what they do that they shouldn't have done,....... 'my friends get me upset sometimes',.......' even God gets mad at his own people in the bible'......and they went on and at this point i felt like hugging them both because my heart felt such ease knowing they understand afterall,.....what a relief!......What a relief that they had looked beyond the surface and haven't judged me for being hard on everyone for the slightest reason. They looked at my action from the window of their heart and understood that there was more to me than the reaction of anger that i displayed the day before.
Now here is the catch about anger management that i'm sure will benefit everyone reading this.
1. Anger reveals passion: Think of the things that provoke anger in you. They sometimes are situations and occurences that others do not have a second thought about or are quite indifferent about but they just happen to make you uneasy enough to speak against them or get upset for. Where your passion lies is a strong indication of your purpose. For one, i still see teens on the streets and get really upset with the kind of negativity their lifestyle is tagged with.
2. Anger is a motivator: This one is my favourite because God experienced this Himself. In Isa 63, God was angry with the emenies of His people and had looked for someone to send to deal with the jerks but He didn't find nobody but His anger was big enough that it 'fueled Him'. The anger became a driving force for the achievement of a good cause.
3. Anger brings about changes: If something makes you upset constantly, the anger becomes a good reason to make some changes so you don't continue to thrown trantrums each time. For all i care, the wind blew out the candle on Thomas Edison to the point he got angry enough to figure out he needed to invent the light bulb. When a persons gets angry about a situation everytime and they don't do anything it, then they are no better than a lunatic or someone who's lost their minds. A wise saying is that it is a fool who does the same thing the same way each time and expects different results.
4. Anger can be learning process: Now, this is very important in relationships as friends, family, colleagues etc. For the one who is the receiver or the giver of the anger, both can leverage on the situation to learn valuable things about each other. So your boss or teacher is really upset about something you did is the easiest way of knowing their standpoint on an issue.
So if you happen to be on a guilt trip like i was or just want to make a change about your anger, you might want to practice these ideas and you can have a money-back guarantee if they dont work.........oops!?.....except that you didn't pay anything!
R
Timsyn
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