Lean on me......gone wrong! (Contd....)

Since my last post on this blog, i'd practically lost composure due to the fact that i'm got convinced the issue was not well tackled, surely the issue of frienship and influence deserve more highlight than the few paragraphs i accorded it......,but then again, it was a good thing because that uneasy feeling made me think about it in an even bigger and may different perspective all together.

We all get attracted to people for different reasons and we touch each other's emotions without even realising it. Much as i think that young people make friends for the slightest reasons, i found out that adults do too and thanks to the hurried life we now live, sometimes we don't even have time or chance to look deeply into the lives of our potential friends except at those weekly meetings at church or at the club or as a client or a business associate, until an event occurs and we realise the true identity of the person is revealed. At that point, dissociation become painful, heart breaking or even impossible.

To a large extent, the same picture or senerio is at play with young people except that the criteria are mostly those of wanting to belong or fit-in into a clique or roll with someone who's got something they admire, want or lack. Unlike the adults however, influences from friends are easily picked and harder to drop.

Infuences from friends or someone might even be easy to deal with because we can pinpoint who and where they are coming from but how about those that we clueless about and you find yourself asking your ward where on earth they got those attitude from? The truth is most times they do not have the answer themselves and just do not want to discuss it because 'parents do not understand'.

Now, the ones that worry me the most are influences from intangible sources, those you cannot hold anyone in particular responsible or accountable for but have an enoumous amount of effect on your teenager's growth process!..... i am talking about internet, social networks, television, music, celebrities, fashion and so on. These are the realities of this generation and the attention required deal with influence from friends is equally as needed for these ones too......i mean, think for a minute......when was the last time you child discussed with you happenings or the recent developments on facebook, or the lastest gist about someone on twitter? Do you honestly think your teen's life on these media is trivial and not important to their growth?......well, i'll leave you with that thought and hopefully we get to come back on the realities.......


Cheers

  
Timsyn